76 people per week have taken their lives in Australia since lockdown started in March. That’s a lot more than COVID.
Go and hug ya mates, big long hugs! Eat more veges, have mad chats, drink kombucha (its far better for your mental health than alcohol, or tap water!!). Laugh your ass off, have a movie marathon, go on a hike or a mini toad trip, dive into the ocean, go to work if you can!! If you can’t then find the beauty in that (even for a moment) and most importantly, know that you are NEVER alone and it really is going to be soooo ok!
If you’re in a dark place and need a pickmeup, holler at me! I’m always down for Zoom hangs, chats and giggles to lift the spirits.
If you’re in a good space, who can you send some love to today? Even a simple message can be life saving. Stop scrolling and do it now 🙌🏻💫🙏🏻
In the 60s we had the rise of women’s liberation and around that time we decided we could drink the same amount of alcohol as men. And yeah, sure, physically we can. But our bodies are sooooo different and our hormones are being massively impacted by consuming alcohol the way we do.
Its impacting our weight/ fat stores (due to insulin levels being thrown off)
Our estrogen goes up which pulls us out of balance and impacts cycle, symptoms, and mental health.
More than four servings of alcohol a week - you increase risk of estrogen dominant cancers (eg. breast cancer) but over 30% - if you’re drinking double this then double that risk.
It not just impacting our weight, its impacting us on a cellular, a hormonal and a toxic level thats ripping apart our gut health.
As you move towards your next drink, why are you drinking? How much are you drinking? Could you switch it out for other things if it means moving away from things like;
And soooooo much more.
I’m not saying quit all together (I never will say I’m 100%) but ask the questions.
If you would like to hear my take aways, alternatives and go-to alcohol suggestions if you MUST drink. Then PM me or drop and emoji below this post so I know to reach out 👇🏻
Things I learnt from our recent PCOS webinar in @thehseofficial
Its said to be an ancient disorder dating back to hunter gatherer era. It was seen as an advantage as it increased the capacity to store energy during famine, conceive less often and avoid child birth complications and increased bone density and muscle mass that benefit survival outcomes.
The thing is, NOW the environment has changed but the female body has not. What were mild advantageous symptoms back then are now more problematic and due to all our environmental factors that didn’t exist back in the day.
- Toxins (in food, cosmetics, cleaning products and more)
- Poor sleep / circadian rhythms
- Nutrient poor foods
- In utero factors
- Poor gut health
Women with PCOS actually have a microbiome with less diversity of beneficial microbes than non-PCOS women and we all know now that the level of our gut health has a MASSIVE impact on our hormone balance and our mental and immune health.
The pill is also promoted as an aid to symptoms of PCOS 🤦🏼♀️ however the effects of the pill are actually more detrimental long term. The pill shuts down the hormonal system completely and sends you into a very estrogen dominant state, it breaks down the microbiome and its classed as an endocrine disrupter.
“The body’s normal endocrine functioning involves very small changes in hormone levels, yet we know even these small changes can cause significant developmental and biological effects. This observation leads scientists to think that endocrine-disrupting chemical exposures, even at low amounts, can alter the body’s sensitive systems and lead to health problems.
Even low doses of endocrine-disrupting chemicals may be unsafe” - Direct quote from the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences.
My mind is being constantly blown the more I learn about this stuff. And how backwards our medical system seems to be. I implore you to do your research if you are dealing with PCOS or any other poor bodily functions in your day to day. YOU ARE THE CURE!! You can change your story and circumstances. If you know someone struggling tag them in this so they know there is sooooo much hope!
- Ask the person who upset you how they are - actually connect with THEM (what if they really aren’t ok, especially during these times)
- Seek to understand why they did what they did. Learn about that process from them
- Ask them if it’s a good time to receive some feedback, to open a dialog and have a conversation about why it upset you.
- Be willing and open to other opinions and completely different life experiences to your own. Maybe you can both learn something and feel supported and empowered moving forward.
If you do not go strait to the source. If you gossip. If you attack or assert opinions. If there is no personal connection and conversation from source to source …… you are (by definition) BULLYING. Read that again.
I will never label, shame or attack anyone who connects with me with a different opinion or belief. I honour you and where you are at in this life. I’d love to learn more about you how you came to be the person you are today. I invite each and everyone of you to reach out to me privately ANYTIME! I cannot wait to connect with you and evolve together.
“You LOOK like youre doing really well” - people say this to me all the time.
Even if you read every post, every comment, watched every story and every live video in perfect order. You would only have a tiny window into someone’s life.
So dont assume you know how someone is doing by looking at their social media.
Doing this can bring us down. Doing this has removed connection and any responsibility for our fellow humans OUT of our human behaviour.
We got lazy, we got sucked into the comfort zone. But your comfort zone is only the tip of the iceberg of this world and you wont be able to avoid it for much longer.
That doesn’t mean we have to be afraid or uncomfortable. Lets get more CONNECTED! Stop assuming we know whats what because perceptions from the comfort zone are almost always incorrect.
Before I go here’s 5 fun facts about me in 2020 that social media wouldn’t show:
- I’ve cried everyday for one reason or another (it’s not a bad thing)
- I’ve been close to homelessness twice (grateful)
- I’ve been trying to get an apartment and a car for months and keep getting rejected or missing out.
- I cannot visit my family
- i currently run my online business from the floor of my share house living room
And even that is only the very tip of the iceberg of my personal life experience. Remember that those you watch online are just humans. Doesn’t matter how pretty their life looks, they are working through challenges constantly too. Those who don’t share the negative all the time usually are of the understanding that what you focus on..... grows.
So let’s talk more? Let’s focus on what is working in our lives and watch as those good things get even better so that the bad doesn’t seem so bad anymore!
Side note: check on your friends who can’t travel to Bali this year ... they aren’t ok 🤣
I SEE YOU
- Youre bloated AF for a multitude of reasons
- Youre freakin tired, need coffee or other things to get through the day.
- You feel a little like youre going crazy sometimes with your emotions going up and down.
- Youre skin isn’t clear!! But they told us that was just suppose to be a high school thing.
- Youre body size fluctuates even though you work out.
- Maybe you reject food, both emotionally and physically OR on purpose.
- You have painful, irregular or non existent periods.
- You feel depressed and a bit hopeless sometimes, like this is all just life.
- You wanna have kids one day and you dont wanna have all these health problems doing so.
- You didn’t think you would feel this old in your 20s & 30s when you aren’t living an unhealthy life.
- You dont have hundreds or thousands to spend on treatments or medicines or therapy or support.
Im seeing myself a few years ago. Im seeing the chick who literally thought that all of that was actually just normal! Until a random Osteopath told me it really wasn’t. Didn’t know that would be one of the catalysts for everything changing.
Now I support women through the same journey I went through …. but without the years of dirty work to have to figure it all out bit by bit. If you are experiencing any of the above like I was please read this - IT IS NOT NORMAL! IT IS NOT HOW YOU WERE MADE TO BE IN THIS WORLD! - If this sounds like you and you’re looking for ways through to the other side - slide into my DMs and let me know what you’re wanting to improve so I can see if I’m the person to help you or if I know who can!
As we head into the second half of this interesting year, a year with very little touch, hugs or affection. A year with a lot of fear, label slinging and division. A year with a lot of instability and very little certainty. I wanted to express my gratitude.
I’m grateful for every person I’ve known or met who has held me close or held space for me.
I’m grateful for all of you who slide into my DMs to have incredible and powerful conversations that challenge us both and inspire me so much.
I’m grateful for my clients who support themselves but also help support my small business during these times.
I’m grateful for my business community who have so gracefully lead with love and heart, not fear and money hunger during this time.
I’m grateful for the thousands of connections I’ve had up until this point that have helped me remember who I am & why I chose this life and this experience at this time.
I’m so grateful. I’m so grateful.
When you are grateful you CANNOT be fearful.
What are you grateful for?
The only thing we consume more than content is air .... but we actually think about the quality of air we breathe.
I threw away my television in 2012. There was nothing of value on tv and anytime I watched the news or a current affair it was always bad news stories or someone complaining about their power bill, their phone bill or the bad service they got at a store. Complaints and a pitty party from the host..... but you know what, NO SOLUTIONS.
They would usually attack the company in question, or chase an employee down the street for a comment. But with all the exposure they get, there was no segments on ‘tips and tricks to reduce your power bill/phone bill’ or how to behave in difficult situations to get to the best solution or outcome for both parties.
We are being fed this constant story of victim hood and if we moan and complain and tell on people we will get attention and pitty and some kind of compensation. It’s embarrassing and I see it everywhere.
Whatever your problems are, heres the really confronting question - what if no one is coming to save you? What are you going to do then? Do you know how powerful an agent for change you can be in your own life?
Empower yourself with step one: turn OFF the tv and start thinking for yourself. If it’s not solution based content or conversation why are you giving it your time?
Real life is FAR MORE EXCITING than what’s on tv. Especially when you take control of your life, one step and one solution at a time.
#throwback picture - a thunderstormy night alone in my old fave beachfront pad. currently trying to manifest another one of these into my life as I need a home office STAT!
I think the problem started somewhere in primary school where we picked up from SOMEWHERE that strait hair was better than curly hair and the IRON was pulled out every weekend to straiten out (and fry) the natural beauty that was our childhood hair.
Then we got access to hair dye, bleach, hair strainers and crimpers and curlers came in. There was a shampoo and conditioner make for EVERY possible issue you were facing, dry hair, oily hair, strait hair, curly hair, coloured hair, damaged hair. If your hair doesn’t grow or is too thin, buy extensions.
Then serums and treatments, toners and coloured shampoos. I never had enough money to get into all this but as an observer (with destroyed bleached hair) I always wished I could …. Because I NEEDED this stuff to ‘fix’ my hair.
I treated my hair like crap for 20 years. But I was treating it the way the magazines and specialists were telling me I should. But it wasn’t growing (it was breaking and getting shorter) I was buying all the stuff when I could, I was massaging and using the heat protectors and the special shampoos and I just never got anywhere.
I was horrified when I started to see my natural strawberry blond coming through because every hairdresser id been to had told me I needed to use a toner to get rid of the golden tones. I had been called a ginge and all sorts and this was just a part of my natural self that it seemed - had to be hidden.
Just before I went to my yoga training in 2015 my hair straitener broke. I spent a month in Bali and didn’t wash my hair. I started learning alternative and natural hair hacks from people and places and of course the internet. And it was one of the first of many things I would realise would be my solution If I leaned in and did the uncomfortable work to get to a sustainable solution.
I stopped using strainers and any heat treatments - it was rough because my hair was fried and it took a while for it to remember its natural wave that the heat products destroy.
I avoided hair ties which would cause more breakage - scrunchies are a great alternative and totally on trend.
Do you know someone who has experienced discrimination?
Do you know someone who discriminates?
Do you know someone who has experienced a vaccine injury or death?
Do you know someone suffering from depression or anxiety?
Do you know someone who suffers from a chronic illness?
Do you know someone who has been sexually abused - as a child or an adult?
Do you know someone who is privileged?
Do you know someone who’s under privileged?
I can answer this now. We ALL know someone in each of these categories. But how close are we to them? Have we spoken to them recently or are they just a name on a screen we avoid. Have we spent time having (albeit a difficult) conversation with them about their life experience, their childhood, their conditioning that brought them to the state they are in now?
Have we shown them that they are safe to express what they think and feel, or have we rejected them? Have we discussed differing views and ideas from a place of care, understanding and curiosity? If someone is reactive do we attack or throw our hands up and walk away? Or do we ask, HOW ARE THEY REALLY DOING? HOWS THEIR HEART? HOWS THEIR MIND? WHERE IS THE PAIN COMING FROM? HOW CAN WE HELP?
How can we come from a place of understanding and compassion - in our community NOW - to be part of a lasting solution to all these things that divide us?
To be brave and have the difficult conversations instead of bullying behind a keyboard and hoping that it all gets sorted by someone else.
How incredible would our world be if we could evolve on all these issues as one, even with our different conditioning, beliefs and opinions. To hold space for each other evolve and heal from old conditioning thats keeping so many stuck in a space of fear.
Some may call it impossible but waiting for an organisation or government to fix a problem hasn’t provided us with any lasting change. The way I see it, your life, your love, your community is your ground zero. Ready to get uncomfortable? Think of 5 people on your friend list that you DONT agree with and ask them if they are ok? Hold that space for them if they are not.
Statistically, so many of you won’t do this, will YOU though?