We live in a world of environmental pollution – everything from toxic chemicals to radiation. Furthermore, we have moved from a nomadic lifestyle of eating 600 hundred different plants – which is still typical for today’s rare nomadic societies – to a sedentary life and a diet seriously lacking in that level of variety of plant‐life
The body is a miraculous machine and when it is operating optimally, it can repair damaged tissue and cleanse dead material out of the body as well as foreign chemical pollutants. But NONE of our bodies are operating optimally because we are allowing them to be broken down on a daily basis
Whether its from the undeniable evidence of how toxic our water systems are. The (minimum) 79+ chemicals that our found on our supermarket produce every year. The nutrient lacking soil its growing in. The pollution in our air and our oceans. The toxins and chemicals in our skin care and cleaning products. The exposure to blue light and addictive effects of technology that drains our nervous system. The medications we take. The alcohol we comsume ….. this list goes ON AND ON AND ON.
Its not our fault, its the world we live in. We have been groomed and conditioned to live this way and so even opening our mind to these things is against our brains capabilities - we automatically go into fight or flight when we hear it because we cant imagine changing.
How many people do you know with mental health issues. With skin issues. Bloating issues. Chronic illness. High stress. Lacking sleep. Low energy/caffine dependant. How many people do we know with AT LEAST one poor health condition?
THINGS HAVE NOT ALWAYS BEEN THIS WAY.
But we are all become so addicted to instant gratification and quick fixes and bandaging the issue that we CANT BE FVCKED doing the work (even when the health and happiness of our loved ones is at stake).
All is not lost. I thought it was for a while there. I was pretty fvcking scared tbh. But humans are pretty awesome. Those who aren’t trapped in fear INNOVATE. They find ways, change the approach. Work with the problem and make it easy and affordable to get through the discomfort that is DETOXING and through to the other side.
Whether you need to detox your life of physical toxins, emotional, environmental, its gonna get a little worse before its gets AMAZING. But thats why I have connected the dots and pulled together the resources to make it alot easier than it was for me over the last decade.
Sadly - most of you wont decide to finally invest in getting yourself better until you hit rock bottom. I see it time and time again and I wish I could shake you all (as I wish someone had done to me) to show you theres a way to avoid the rock bottoms.
We say we would die for our kids, our partners, for our dreams BUT we dont seem to be willing to create and live a truly healthy and sustainable lifestyle for them?
Or maybe you are ready? Is it time to start today? PM me for info on how to get started on the road to detoxing your life and changing your whole WORLD!
Dear child Katrina
I dont know if this is going to resonate with you or not and thats ok. You might completely ignore this advice and I cant help that but I cannot keep this from you because I want you to experience the best of everything in this life!
You know how you want to live in a world thats full of life and good energy and people being kind to one another? You know how you want to be successful, not only for yourself but also to break the cycle of poverty in your family and help ease your parents money stress? You know how you want to travel the world? You know how you feel really good when you eat well and exercise and go out in nature? You know how you want to meet an amazing man who’s going to treat you like a queen, marry you, look after you and live happily ever after……
Well heres how to get there ALOT faster babe;
1: Stooooop wasting your time chasing boys and men. Until you have done some work on learning to love EVERY part of yourself, youre only going to attract other broken men who will disrespect you and leave you (or worse). You’ll be left wondering ‘why my’. As opposed to having the time of your life on your own - and attracting a man who has the same respect for himself and others.
2: Alcohol and drugs are a great way to WASTE YOUR LIFE. Yeah it feels good and new and fun now, but next minute, youre 30, you still haven’t achieved any of your goals, haven’t made much money, haven’t saved, have had awful experiences with men and have destroyed your body and mind with these socially acceptable depressants. Yeah babe, they are actually depressants!!! that we all seem to think make us happier but all they do is bring us into the present moment - which can be done many other ways. So learn/find the other ways ASAP. I know some people might think youre weird and uncool for this but I cannot stress this enough - if you do nothing else, quit these things now!
3: Having one job, one career, one stream of income Is old thinking. Do many jobs. Learn many skills. This world is changing so fast and the opportunities to make a difference with your skills are endless and they will bring you abundance. No joke!!
4: You dont need to save a ton of money to go travel. Volunteer! Network! Couchsurf! Work. These are far better ways to see the world than dropping 10 grand on a few weeks and famous IG worthy sites. You will learn sooo much more than you could in most schools from people and places.
5: Eat better. Not just better but learn about your food. If its not organic you’re consuming chemicals which are hurting your body. Diets are a waste of time but forming healthy habits will make you feel like you’re in your 20s forever. If you aren’t dying from the pain or flu, you dont need the painkiller you just need some water and a nap! Think of this - if your body is healthy you dont get sick - when you dont get sick you have so much more energy to do awesome stuff!
Get out in nature as much as you can. Beach, bush, mountain, waterfall, around the block! Anything you can manage and at least once every day. There is a power in our natural world and when you know how to tap into it you will never feel isolated or alone.
6: Never stop learning. If you dont know something, find out. Ask questions all the time. Try new things. If something makes you feel scared, that probably means you need to do it! Because as cliche as it sounds - all the best things ARE on the other side of your fears. Use your fear as a guidance system to everything you want and you will experience a far bigger and better life than you can even imagine.
7: If he doesn’t love you dont have sex with him! If you dont love him, dont have sex with him! You are allowed to say NO. Your intimate/sexual energy is sacred AF and the only ones who should get access to that space, are those who have moved mountains to show how important you are to them.
8: No one will ever criticise you if they are working harder than you, so never take criticism or advice from someone unless they have achieved what you want to achieve. If they are not in the arena getting their ass kicked on the path to making their dreams come true - their feedback is not usable. If they insist on giving it to you anyway say thankyou and move on with your life.
But most of all….. dont laugh at this because it sounds so simple its silly….. have fun!!
Not drunken stupid fun, not messing around on stupid apps fun. Have fun out there! In the world, with friends, in nature, overseas and find ways to enjoy and be grateful for every moment in life. Because there isn’t some day in the future when everything is done and perfect and finished. You will always want more, and as soon as you want more you will experience more challenges to get you there. LOVE the challenges, dance with the hard times, play with any pain that comes along and lean in to love it all. That is the overall key, for if you are grateful you can never be fearful and if you are not fearful……. well, watch out world!
In light of hearing recently that 50% of Australian women have experienced emotional abuse in a relationship, heres my knowledge and experience of a particular form that doesn't get spoken of often.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that makes you doubt yourself, your perceptions, your intuitions, your physical and emotional realities and this is a common form of abuse in society by those with a need to avoid responsibility.
Heres a few signs to look for to know if you’re being or have been gaslit:
1: You second guess your memory of your experiences as the other person is treating you as it they never happened or have no merit.
2: You feel on edge around this person, you may not be able to pin point why but you always feel as if you’re walking on eggshells.
3: You are made to feel that you always have to apologise for something or that things are your fault.
4: You are always trying to make them happy, even to your own detriment. Not that you shouldn’t do nice things, but you feel that you must do this for them before yourself.
5: Youre made to feel like theres something fundamentally wrong with you, like youre crazy, broken or flawed. Because they know you (or even if they dont know you well) they must be right.
6: You find it hard to trust your own judgement and look to others for attention for your problem, to get their input and to help you make decisions. You dont usually take any action on this advice but at the same time, you no longer trust your own wants or needs.
7: You feel like you’re a much weaker version of who you use to be.
8: You are now afraid to speak up about your wants, needs or preferences for you’re always treated like they dont matter or shouldn’t exist.
I was in a relationship very similar to this for 7 years. Then the majority of my interactions with men in the 9 years since have been very similar.
Ive done alot of the work to understand this behaviour and to not take it personally but it doesn’t make witnessing it or experiencing it any better.
My intention with this post is to plant a seed. I was being emotionally abused - not on purpose, but through conditioning - for many years, everyone tried to tell me but I wouldn’t listen. So I dont expect this to be the catalyst to change your life. But if you resonate with anything in this list and you need a space to come to to unpack your thoughts on the matter - please dont hesitate to get in touch. This offer is to men or women as I know it can go both ways.
Lets be more conscious in our relationships. Lets find ways to move out of abuse and trauma and toward healing and joy. IT IS POSSIBLE if you can finally decide that it is possible for you.
Much love - Kat xx
Are you addicted to your victim story?
I’m not even going to elaborate, just read that over and over a few times. Let it land and know, it’s ok if you are. I was. That acceptance is really shit tasting medicine. But it’s the one thing currently limiting the greatness of your life. Be brave, go within and know it’s safe to ask for help to navigate that if you don’t know how 🙏🏻💛⚡️
As soon as you hate anything or anyone……… you become a sales person for everything that is wrong with this world.
But its a thing. Its possibly the hardest truth to take. To know that by finding any and every way to come out of a space of hate and into a space of productivity. Thats how you create real change.
As soon as you hate you’re gonna go to all your friends and talk about the thing you hate, how you were wronged, how an external factor is to blame. And perhaps it is so………. But this passing on of that vibration of judgement and hate is what numbs everyone else into doing nothing productive about it. That’s a scientific reality.
How can you feel what you’re feeling and get productive? How can you have the difficult conversations around solutions and how to FINALLY move us out of this division. How do we learn how to speak to those with conditioning of an outdated mindset that keeps us divided. How do we inspire them to see this new way of peace and unity without forcing it on them?
Because any teacher will know, you cannot force anyone to learn, you must inspire them and lead by example. Just like, if you see your friend is in a terrible relationship or job or situation, you cant force them to leave it. You can only inspire them and light the way for them to know there’s another way. You can only meet them where they are at. To live your life from a space of love and show that there is a way to exist that isn’t consumed by anger, fear, hate or abuse.
Pick a problem, the list is loooooong. From racism to sexual or gender discrimination. Child trafficking to poverty. Chronic illness to suicide rates. Media biased to information censoring. Sexual abuse and harassment to class separation.
Learn how to understand your own emotional charge with it. How to understand it fully from all angles and opinions and then lead by example from that space. To find solutions EVERYDAY! To think outside the box. To challenge the status quo!
YOU ARE A LEADER. WHETHER YOU DO ANYTHING OR NOT. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US IS A LEADER NOW. So what can you do today to inspire us into a world without fear, hate and separation?
IF YOU GET TIRED, LEARN TO REST NOT TO QUIT.
Since I entered the workforce at 18 I wanted to work Monday to Friday .... but I gravitated towards retail and odd weekend jobs in childcare and hospo so that didn’t happen. All through my 20s (when I wasn’t travelling) I was working 6 days a week, plus more odd jobs, just to pay bills and save for said travelling.
My first few years in business I spent every spare moment building, content, delivering 1000s of flyers about classes, doing free events and classes, designing, producing apparel lines, building websites, filming and editing YouTube videos, creating programs, retreats, events, building relationships with clients, supporting team (breathe) all while going to my actual day job and trying to also have a social life.
Since starting my work online it’s taken me a while to learn about structure and boundaries and health factors around being on technology too much and burning out etc. Even though I’ve been doing work that excites me to no end - work that I’m happy to do early in the morning and late at night - I now give myself a nice balanced schedule and I only break it if absolutely necessary.
So now I work Monday - Friday, only a few hours a day. Sometimes a little on Saturday if I feel the need to (with international time zones etc) and Sunday’s are my day off. No exception.
So you can have the things that you want but you have to learn how, find the right vehicle to use to get you there and do the important work tasks, so that you get things done that get you paid and you don’t do too much that you burn out.
You can’t get to success from a space of giving up and giving in. It ONLY takes small simple action everyday and lots of love, leaning on community/mentors and a good self care routine.
Here’s me on my recent spontaneous Sunday adventure to one of my favourite spots with my #bibclique girl @rawspirations_
LEARN TO REST NOT TO QUIT GUYS! You got dis!
Wow do we unite for change EVERYDAY? Not just when its 'on trend?
Cancer has been around for 1000 years and trillions of dollars later we still dont have a cure?
in a regular year) Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide. We raise awareness with a hashtag, feed the mentally ill drugs and prescriptions. Yet its shunned to have this problem, we are the most disconnected humans have every been - while all the latest studies show the solution is connection, community and CLEARING the body of these toxins.
Chronic illness has been at pandemic numbers for years but the WHO is doing nothing about it. Probably because theres no money to be made from your complete wellness and happiness.
And heres where i usually loose people......... Every 30 seconds a child is sold into sex slavery or for organ harvesting. Not just stolen children. They are being bred for this. Its a 150 billion dollar a year industry but it makes us too uncomfortable so we turn away. I literally get ignored anytime im trying to raise awareness or money for these causes trying to save them.
As humans we are designed, that if we are made to feel uncomfortable we shut down. And the more thats making us uncomfortable the more we shut down.
What are we going to do about the separation in our society?
We are being constantly separated. Black and white, rich and poor, old and young, gay and strait, muslim and christian and the list goes on. But the more we allow them to separate us the more we are focused on that discomfort and are blind to all the other shit thats being swept under the rug.
How can we get uncomfortable together? To challenge our human ways and educate each other with love and connection? How can we hold tight to each other in that discomfort and rise up as one?
Also, side note: Are we just not doing COVID anymore?
We are afraid of things, hate things, and REJECT things that we don’t understand. We are also all conditioned to do very little about it on a day to day basis - whatever the issue.
Life is hard, life is busy, for many reasons and that never ends. So when things arise that are confronting for this reason, our actual brain shuts down and directs us to behaviours of our original conditioning. Our brain, in that moment, thinks it’s keeping us safe, in the familiar knowledge and teachings that may or may not have been passed to us with the best of intentions. We will be convinced by the brain to proceed in that behaviour because its the safest option, even if others think it is wrong.
Even the most misguided and, as some are calling, evil and wrong people in society are that way because of conditioning. But we live in a ‘treat it or cut it out’ system where if its ‘wrong’ we must reject it without digging deeper to figure out how it all went wrong?? Can we agree that (even though its harder work) when we treat something at the cause rather than the symptom, that is where real lasting solutions come from.
I have refrained from posting about current events. Ive witnessed blame and shame to anyone who does or doesn’t get on board with the current situation. Ive had many people over time tell me I should or shouldn’t be posting about world issues, that Its shameful that im not or not my place if I do.
The thing is, for years now, we have seen many horrific events. I have witnessed the changing of profile pictures, the posting of quotes, the hashtagging of the current event and the world go into an uproar…..but then….. thats it. No ongoing movements created. No consistent attempts to use these platforms to educate or raise awareness or funds for the issue.
There is so much in this world that is so wrong and doesn’t have to be. There are soooo many labels and issues that keep us separated. But instead of posting and stating sensational one liners, demands and claims to a screen, could we step back, look around and see what we can do about it in our immediate environment?
Do you know someone who has experienced discrimination?
Do you know someone who discriminates?
Do you know someone who has experienced a vaccine injury or death?
Do you know someone suffering from depression or anxiety?
Do you know someone who suffers from a chronic illness?
Do you know someone who has been sexually abused - as a child or an adult?
Do you know someone who is ‘privileged’
I can answer this now. We ALL know someone in each of these categories. But how close are we to them? Have we spoken to them recently or are they just a name on a screen we avoid. Have we spent time having (albeit a difficult) conversation with them about their life experience, their childhood, their conditioning that brought them to the state they are in?
Have we shown them that they are safe to express what they think and feel, or have we rejected them? Have we discussed our differing views and ideas from a place of care and understanding? If someone is reactive do we throw our hands up and walk away? Or do we ask, HOW ARE THEY REALLY DOING? HOWS THEIR HEART? HOWS THEIR MIND? WHERE IS THE PAIN COMING FROM? HOW CAN WE HELP?
How can we come from a place of understanding and compassion - in our direct communities - to be part of a lasting solutions to all these problems?
To be brave and have the difficult conversations instead of posting about it and hoping that it all gets sorted by someone else.
How incredible would our world be if we could evolve on all these issues as one, even with our different conditioning, beliefs and opinions. To help each other evolve and heal from old conditioning thats keeping so many stuck in a space of fear.
Some may call it impossible but waiting for an organisation or government to fix a problem hasn’t provided us with any lasting change. The way I see it, your life, your love, your community is your ground zero. Ready to get uncomfortable? Think of 5 people on your friend list that you DONT agree with and ask them if they are ok? Hold that space for them if they are not. Learn about them. Statistically, so many of you won’t do this, will YOU though?
The solution to rejection is CONNECTION
Little did I know that at this moment ... before he even started asking me to bend over in front of a webcam for him, he had met someone else and just opted to do us both. So for months, while he was calling 'our relationship' irreplaceable and nurturing me into providing him with some personal long distance porn, he was building a new relationship with her at home. Then he started ghosting me. I gave him space as i know he was having a hard time.... but when i finally asked, I got a casual 'I’m seeing someone else now’ text message.
***Fun fact; when someone ends a relationship over text message the body and mind dont actually register this has happened. Theres no voice, no face, no familiar transmission that anything has actually happened so it doesn't register the same way. This leaves you far more susceptible to the mind leading you to any feelings of hope or light in the situation to make sense of it. Even deluding yourself that it hasn't really happened.
He assured me he was not sure of this new thing & was just so depressed and confused. Assured me we had not seen the last of each other. In my absolute confusion and shock I gracefully accepted this text message and asked for one kindness. I asked if he could avoid sharing this new thing on social media for me to have to watch, at least while i processed wft had just happened for me.
This request was ignored and the very next day and for the next few months, I got to watch their relationship grow. Everything from the dates to the bedroom hangouts and even using the name he had called me. Yes, I put myself through this by clicking on the stories. Humans have an inherent need to understand things and an addiction to pain when no other option is available. Having no explanation as to what happened, no voice, no call only text and then this, I was trying to understand how one goes from ‘I always want you in my life’ and 'you have ruined me for anyone else' to..... completely ejected (but not on social media even when i begged to be blocked).
Theres so many people who dont share their relationships online AND (for those who arent aware) theres features you can use to block or hide it from the one person it’s clearly traumatising further.
Ive always accepted and understood that we cant help who we fall in love with. Ive learnt alot about why someone might behave in this way moving forward but to this day I don’t fully understand the behaviour I experienced. The damage its caused, unfortunately still lingers, as Ive really struggled to even be open to physical intimacy since.
Next month will mark the time last year that i began this new direction. I share this now from a much healthier space but I speak with so many men and women through my work who face this same experience. 10 years ago you would never have to see that person again. Now, you get a front row seat to how little you meant to them, until (if) you can muster the strength everyday to release the need to understand and look away. When asked by my parents why i couldnt just not look, i likened it to telling an addict with a bag in their hand not to shoot up. Studies done on the brain show that familiar pain boosts the feel good receptors in our brain (i know its stupid). This makes the body feel a rush and the brain associates the activity with 'good'. The same receptors that activate when we do all sorts of other healthier activities. However, our brain only understands the feeling and its attachment and has now determined that with a couple clicks of a button we can get that same hit, Thats easier than going for a run so, just like an addict, the brain with encourage you to do that behaviour over a healthy one. It’s no wonder we have a whole generation growing up sick, traumatised, depressed and addicted to the world online more that the world offline.
I’ve learnt a lot about this self destructive behaviour in the space of social media and 2019 was my ultimate test. Im sure there must be so many out there however, who might not have the tools to make it through to the other side, like i did. There were some seriously dark days and i thank god everyday that i had a good community to physically hold me in that trauma shift. I like to think that cycle is now broken. I like to think I won’t have to experience that level of disrespect ever again. I do know however that i am constantly having to retrain my brain to only engage in the healthy behaviours for boosts than the not so healthy.
If you read this and you are watching someone online trying to understand what happened... but it’s hurting you, ask yourself; how can I change this behaviour to save myself?
If you read this and you get into relationships and share them for all to see strait away, ask, why do i need to do that? Is it necessary if i know its hurting someone else? Can i simply enjoy the happiness without the validation of sharing it online?
I get it - this is a whole new world of challenges that no one could have ever prepared us for. We are ALL driven by this dopamine addiction and validation of worth we get from a simple view, a like or a message (yep we get dopamine hits from that too - easy). We also have this deluded assumption that we have an understanding of a situation from a very small & filtered window of reality.
Im glad to say ive been out the other side of this for a while now and i have never really shared about any of it here before. I wanted to understand it better and learn how to overcome it before i offered the help to others.... as it was one of the roughest things ive ever encountered and i want others to have the tools to transcend it, as I did. So, If anyone resonates with this and needs to unpack a similar situation my door/inbox is always open with no judgement. Let’s learn more about oursleves. Lets find solutions together and perhaps become more aware of how we can show up better next time. And pass this on to future generations 💛
The memory - without the emotional charge - IS CALLED WISDOM
Basically guys.... shit happens.
You’re gonna experience a ton of shit in your life and it’s going to leave you with trauma that you could carry in some way for the rest of your life.
BUT are you gonna spend your life feeding the emotional responses to any situation OR could you jump a little quicker to what wisdom those experiences hold for you?
Yeah I know we have to feeeeeel it and sit with it and learn to love the emotions we have. But when they relate to (sometimes traumatic) experiences that we cannot go back and change, is sitting with it for ages really helping us grow?
How can we get to a solution? How can we get from emotion to wisdom as it pertains to our memories of the past?
One of my mentors once said to me: Girl, you get 90 seconds to vent, to rant, to rage, to tell the victim story, scream, cry and complain. But then......... we get to work. We get to solutions, we get to what wisdom can I draw from this to evolve and serve myself and those around me better next time?
Life doesn’t hand us anything we aren’t able to handle. But we loooooove the victim moment, we looooove the pitty party, we love the drama. It’s not our fault that’s it’s a chemical reaction in the brain we are addicted to. I still see myself slipping into this anytime I get a little knocked or triggered. It’s not our fault but it IS our responsibility to grow from it.
I’ve heard some people say I’m in a cult..... I say I’m in a culture!
Big ups to my whole #bibclique family for being my mirror and my sounding board as we learn, grow and evolve day by day. It’s powerful stuff.