We are afraid of things, hate things, and REJECT things that we don’t understand. We are also all conditioned to do very little about it on a day to day basis - whatever the issue.
Life is hard, life is busy, for many reasons and that never ends. So when things arise that are confronting for this reason, our actual brain shuts down and directs us to behaviours of our original conditioning. Our brain, in that moment, thinks it’s keeping us safe, in the familiar knowledge and teachings that may or may not have been passed to us with the best of intentions. We will be convinced by the brain to proceed in that behaviour because its the safest option, even if others think it is wrong.
Even the most misguided and, as some are calling, evil and wrong people in society are that way because of conditioning. But we live in a ‘treat it or cut it out’ system where if its ‘wrong’ we must reject it without digging deeper to figure out how it all went wrong?? Can we agree that (even though its harder work) when we treat something at the cause rather than the symptom, that is where real lasting solutions come from.
I have refrained from posting about current events. Ive witnessed blame and shame to anyone who does or doesn’t get on board with the current situation. Ive had many people over time tell me I should or shouldn’t be posting about world issues, that Its shameful that im not or not my place if I do.
The thing is, for years now, we have seen many horrific events. I have witnessed the changing of profile pictures, the posting of quotes, the hashtagging of the current event and the world go into an uproar…..but then….. thats it. No ongoing movements created. No consistent attempts to use these platforms to educate or raise awareness or funds for the issue.
There is so much in this world that is so wrong and doesn’t have to be. There are soooo many labels and issues that keep us separated. But instead of posting and stating sensational one liners, demands and claims to a screen, could we step back, look around and see what we can do about it in our immediate environment?
Do you know someone who has experienced discrimination?
Do you know someone who discriminates?
Do you know someone who has experienced a vaccine injury or death?
Do you know someone suffering from depression or anxiety?
Do you know someone who suffers from a chronic illness?
Do you know someone who has been sexually abused - as a child or an adult?
Do you know someone who is ‘privileged’
I can answer this now. We ALL know someone in each of these categories. But how close are we to them? Have we spoken to them recently or are they just a name on a screen we avoid. Have we spent time having (albeit a difficult) conversation with them about their life experience, their childhood, their conditioning that brought them to the state they are in?
Have we shown them that they are safe to express what they think and feel, or have we rejected them? Have we discussed our differing views and ideas from a place of care and understanding? If someone is reactive do we throw our hands up and walk away? Or do we ask, HOW ARE THEY REALLY DOING? HOWS THEIR HEART? HOWS THEIR MIND? WHERE IS THE PAIN COMING FROM? HOW CAN WE HELP?
How can we come from a place of understanding and compassion - in our direct communities - to be part of a lasting solutions to all these problems?
To be brave and have the difficult conversations instead of posting about it and hoping that it all gets sorted by someone else.
How incredible would our world be if we could evolve on all these issues as one, even with our different conditioning, beliefs and opinions. To help each other evolve and heal from old conditioning thats keeping so many stuck in a space of fear.
Some may call it impossible but waiting for an organisation or government to fix a problem hasn’t provided us with any lasting change. The way I see it, your life, your love, your community is your ground zero. Ready to get uncomfortable? Think of 5 people on your friend list that you DONT agree with and ask them if they are ok? Hold that space for them if they are not. Learn about them. Statistically, so many of you won’t do this, will YOU though?
The solution to rejection is CONNECTION